Threesomes are a fantasy for a lot of people all over the world. Though one might think that such a fantasy would be present in couples more than singles, in reality, it is the other way around. Single people have a higher inclination to experience threesomes more than couple, specifically because, they don’t need to worry about the complicated dynamic that arises when a stranger has sex with the partner. It’s safer and more enjoyable when you only have to worry about your personal satisfaction.

However, at the same time, there has been a slow increase in the number of couples expressing their desire to try it out. The reasons for this are many, from spicing up their relationship to experiencing something taboo and new. Many falsely believe that couples try out threesomes only because their relationships are going stale and boring. The truth is that most couples who choose to do threesomes are otherwise quite strong. You can’t invite a stranger into your bed and share your partner with him/her if you don’t have a strong foundation of trust and love in your relationship. Insecure people can never go for threesomes because they won’t be able to handle it. If you are wondering why married couples love finding potential partners for threesomes, here are some of the most popular reasons.

1) The Change in Sexual Culture and Acceptance

The world has changed tremendously in the last 5-6 years, let alone the last few decades. From gay rights to sexual acceptance, a lot of countries all over the world have shed their inhibitions and ignorance. A decade ago, a couple having threesomes would have been vilified by people and the media alike. Today, a lot of people have opened their minds to the fact that different people have their own preferences when it comes to expressing themselves sexually. This new acceptance has allowed married couples to come out in the open comfortably and engage in their fantasies and fetishes without feeling any shame. In many ways, threesomes have almost become mainstream, which is kind of crazy to think about, considering how rigid and ignorant the collective society was just a decade ago.

2) The Rise of Hookup Apps and Web Sites

With the rise of hookup apps and sites online (Suck as Yumiapp, Feeld), married couples have a more convenient and easier way to find potential partners. Not too long ago, they had to rely on pure luck when it came to finding a third partner. Another way was to hope that they would come in contact with someone who was in their mutual group of friends who had similar sexual interests. Today, anyone can easily register on apps or websites and start their journey. Most hookup apps provide anonymity too so that couples can remain anonymous until they are sure that they can trust their third partner, which is extremely important. Although finding a partner becomes far easier and convenient, there is a real and present danger of scams and even violence when it comes to meeting strangers over the internet.

3) Millennials and Sexual Fluidity

Millennials, who are the current generation of married couples and parents, have a very different notion on sex. Majority of millennials don’t believe in the old binary assumption of sexuality and gender. Although 85 percent have stated that they believe and respect long term relationships, they are open to trying out new experiences and keeping things fresh in the bedroom. While they know that threesomes cannot fix a broken relationship, they do realize that it can greatly improve an already solid relationship by strengthening what already exists.

4) The Rise of Open Marriages

A lot more people today have open marriages where both individuals have permission to sleep with other people. Contrary to what a lot of people believe, open marriages aren’t shams. They are real people who are secure enough in their trust and love for each other that they can sleep with other people and still come back home to a strong and loving relationship. This also allows married couples to have more choices when it comes to finding potential threesome partners.

5) Double the Love and Double the Fun

Threesomes allow both partners in a marriage to have double the fun and enjoy double the love. Whether it is an MMF (male, male, female) or a FFM (female, female, male) dynamic, both partners have the choice to truly get satisfied from multiple partners. What’s interesting in the MMF dynamic is that two straight men can get sexually aroused by each other despite their sexual orientation. The same applies to females in a FFM dynamic because in threesomes, sexuality is celebrated and fluid. It’s more intimate, more sexually satisfactory and binds couples stronger together. Who wouldn’t want to feel more validated and that too by multiple partners at the same time?

6) The fantasy

One of the biggest reasons why married couples think about having a threesome is a very basic one. Having sex with multiple partners is a taboo fantasy for most people and such an experience provides a whole new level of sexual satisfaction even in the imaginary phase. Even before you do it, you will find yourselves getting turned on immensely just thinking about it. For a married couple who have a very healthy relationship, such a fantasy can bring them together just in the planning phase alone where they can talk about what their desires are and how they can use the threesome experience to tick off a few items from their bucket list. One of our greatest tools is our imagination. With sufficient belief and the ability to feel one’s desire can make us experience something as if it was real. It makes you think more, open dialogue and get your creative juices flowing in terms of your sexual desires.

Final Thoughts

When it comes to threesomes, it has been found out that men seem more inclined to have potential threesomes than women although the percentage of women isn’t that far off. Married men have the fantasy because well, they are men. Women on the other hand mostly are a little bit hesitant because they examine things more in detail before taking decisions that may have a big impact on their lives. Men mostly jump into situations and then deal with the consequences. All in all, threesomes are here to stay and as society becomes more tolerant and open, we will probably see more couples try out new sexual experiences like threesomes at least once. It will never be as common as traditional relationships but it certainly will be more than what we see today.